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Being here gives me extreme social anxiety « on: April 06, 2024, 11:57:38 PM » Author: Silverliner
Just trying hard to be here but I feel paranoid thinking people don’t like me. I can’t understand how they claim they love me but they don’t talk to me.
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Re: Being here gives me extreme social anxiety « Reply #1 on: April 07, 2024, 12:36:32 AM » Author: LightsAreBright27
Do you mean that by replies and comments? Even I have had a lack of interaction on some posts. Since it's an online forum, people may not be present at all times.
An online form may have a lack of interaction, but that dosent mean we don't like people.
Just... please don't leave the forum :love: , every member is valuable.
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Re: Being here gives me extreme social anxiety « Reply #2 on: April 07, 2024, 06:45:37 AM » Author: Laurens
A forum's a forum. Sometimes people respond, sometimes they don't.

And that is normal. The other types of social media are the ones that are messed up - with shoveling aggravating or misleading content into people's faces to force a reaction out of them. The forum doesn't have an algorhythm, that is tailored in such a way that people respond as much as possible to your posts, or put posts in your face that you are most likely to do something with - being positive or negative.
There are no 'likes' on a forum, and that's good. Because after all, the hunt for likes on the other platforms is nothing other than a hunt for validation and that little serotonin boost many drug users crave so much.
The gallery has a voting system, but it's very unubtrusive. There's no ranking on the amount of likes someone's pictures get.

Forums are also, strictly speaking, vintage technology. There simply are fewer people on here than on any of the other 'universal' platforms like facebook, twitter and such. So you might get less interaction overall, and more a sense of talking into the void. The era of forums having hundreds of posts a day are long gone, save for 1 of 2 true survivors like www.circuitsonline.net (electronics) or the somethingawful.com forums (which matured really nicely, all the obnoxious edgy stuff is left in the 2000s era, and the terrible original owner sold it to a staff member about 5 years ago)

There's also no artificial, parasocial relationship, that makes you think you have an actual friendship with a streamer or youtuber, who can make it seem you actually know them - but when you have several thousand of people watching, there's no individual relationship anymore. Many platforms encourage whipping up such feelings with the audience. The absence of such can be a bit jarring, if you're not used to it. 

So in the end i'd say (and of course that's easier said than done for some people, i know that) - don't worry about it. Enjoy the fact that there's still a place where the world doesn't revolve around posting something that gets the maximum number of interactions. Do not compare your interaction here, to that on other mass media platforms, who do have those self amplifying feedback systems in place.
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Re: Being here gives me extreme social anxiety « Reply #3 on: April 07, 2024, 09:17:32 AM » Author: Rommie
Hey, you've been here practically since day 1. Always at the end of a PM or a Discord message if you need to talk  :love:
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Re: Being here gives me extreme social anxiety « Reply #4 on: April 07, 2024, 10:31:38 AM » Author: rjluna2
Don't get me wrong, Dave.  This is a wonderful site that I visit everyday :)

If people are looking at your pictures, there is a visit counter of these pictures you have uploaded.  That is a good sign that you have a good posting.  If not, oh well.  I wouldn't worry about that.

I wanted to say it to you that you have been posting wonderful pictures at the gallery side :love:

Keep the good work here.
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Re: Being here gives me extreme social anxiety « Reply #5 on: April 09, 2024, 12:09:42 AM » Author: LightsoftheWest
Dave, you're one of my closest friends here on the forum. You're also one of the most knowledgeable. Don't let opposing feelings get the best of you. You're particularly an important asset to this site because you've been an active member since the day the site was founded.

Please, Dave; give us a chance. We would hate it if you left, especially since you're an original member.
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Re: Being here gives me extreme social anxiety « Reply #6 on: April 21, 2024, 01:29:41 PM » Author: Cole D.
I enjoy your photos, even though I’m not on here all that often and don’t comment a lot.

A lot of times I don’t get any comments on my photos either and I understand the feeling, but like I said, I don’t always comment on others myself, so I wouldn’t sweat it!
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Re: Being here gives me extreme social anxiety « Reply #7 on: April 22, 2024, 06:25:43 PM » Author: marcopete87
Just trying hard to be here but I feel paranoid thinking people don’t like me. I can’t understand how they claim they love me but they don’t talk to me.

Why do you think that?
I think forum as a pub with live music: sometimes you go in this place, meet some people, chat; other times, you enter, take a drink while listening the music and return home.
Sometimes someone wants only to read topics, but isn't much interested on replying (i'm more interested on photos than chat) and this doesn't absolutely mean someone is annoyed with someother.
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Re: Being here gives me extreme social anxiety « Reply #8 on: April 22, 2024, 08:04:29 PM » Author: Econolite03
Hey Dave feel free to message me if you need to.
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Re: Being here gives me extreme social anxiety « Reply #9 on: April 22, 2024, 08:34:08 PM » Author: BT25
Dave, you're not ignored here...members/public look at your photos. Sorry that you feel ignored...keep your chin up. :bulbman:
I have to be honest and say I miss the interaction that used to be here...not much conversation like there once was... :sadbulb:
As for me, I have other responsibilities that keep me away for the most part, even thought I check in almost daily, and comment when appropriate.
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