you know how a 100 watt equivilent Cfl really uses only 23 watts? well does that mean you could put it in a lamp socket that is rated only for 40 or 60 watts and still get the 100 watt equailvent light output?

A CFL /fluorescent tube has simply a better efficency (lumens/watt). They emit much more light per watt because their technology is more advanced.

so could u put a 100 equilivent in a 60 watt max base?

Yes, a 23/26W CFL makes the same amount of heat as a 60W incandescent lamp. In open fixtures you can install CFLs of higher wattage, but only if you see that the lamp can get rid of his heat enough!

Yep ive had that question, so I just say oh well follow the tag, CFL isn't 100 watt so ill SCREW IT IN! 

I would NOT recommend it. As certain fixture rating correspond to provided ventilation inside and used socket. Even if CFL's run cooler, they are (their ballast lifetime) VERY sensitive to temperature - each 10degC lower temperature the ballast lifetime doubles and vice versa. And for higher wattages (>11W CFL) the ceramic socket is very helpful, as ceramic is quite good thermal conductor (compare to plastic), it keep the CFL base cool - there is located the most temperature sensitive and short lived ballast component(s), DC bus filtering (and/or doubler) capacitor(s).
And as second, CFL's (at least 120V ones) tend to dramatically overheat at the end of life, while higher fixture rating ensures (at least a bit) higher level of protection against fire from such dying lamp.