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Re: Anyone socially awkward? « Reply #45 on: August 19, 2020, 02:41:34 AM » Author: fluorescent lover 40
Hey Lumex, my story is kind of like yours. I'm not really social by any means, but people generally don't mind having me around because I'm kind and bring a "positive" vibe wherever I'm at. My friends (that are not LG members) are everything that I'm not. Extroverts, gamers, and big users of social media. And also I can easily be alone, and slip out of a place I don't want to be, because I'm invisible wherever I go it seems. I like being alone, because even some of my friends expect me to be like them which will never happen because I've seen some toxic stuff happen within this past year because of what they do.

2020 has been hell for me too. My grades were good in the last half of the school year, but fake, and that will come back to bite me. People who I thought were friends shunned me and that event has made me even colder. And my school shut down which even though I hate going to school, the environment was chill and actually pretty fun. Staying at home has made me basically almost emotionless - things that should make me happy, I don't feel (lighting is one thing that does make me genuinely happy though) Things that make me sad or angry I simply just accept. Also if you see a smile on my face it's most likely 100% fake and that's the truth. I can smile genuinely but I rarely even do it.

Also haven't told anyone this yet outside of LG and will leave it like that.

I do have hope though, that things will change and get better in every single aspect in my life. I'm not giving up just yet.
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Re: Anyone socially awkward? « Reply #46 on: August 19, 2020, 08:44:53 AM » Author: suzukir122
Legit same here... "Cool, laid back, chill," those are three things that represent me as well and it's always been that way.
As far as not being normal... I absolutely LOVE not being normal. I hate the thought of being normal, plain, regular, boring, etc.
Normal... well... normal sucks.
People that can accept this about me, no matter their lifestyle, will more than likely be a friend of mine.
I truly hope things get better as well, and that this covid situation ends very soon. This situation is absolutely shattering all social
aspects of life and more.
I'll remain optimistic though and I advise all of you to do the same... things will get better. ;)
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Re: Anyone socially awkward? « Reply #47 on: August 19, 2020, 10:36:11 PM » Author: xmaslightguy
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Xmaslightguy, Not sure why you're so down on yourself but we can always talk.
I've been known to overdo a few Xmas light displays over the years and I'm always looking for advice on how to keep overdoing it.
Just saying things as they are.

I've deff been known to do some Xmas light displays over the years...and even beat the 25k light count in that 'Christmas Vacation' movie on some of them .lol.
...but in my case its all Mini/LED lights & all computer controlled. :)
Not quite to the level of those houses you see on TV, but I guess you could say a way slimmed-down version of that type of thing.

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Re: Anyone socially awkward? « Reply #48 on: August 19, 2020, 10:50:00 PM » Author: Wireman
Just saying things as they are.

I've deff been known to do some Xmas light displays over the years...and even beat the 25k light count in that 'Christmas Vacation' movie on some of them .lol.
...but in my case its all Mini/LED lights & all computer controlled. :)
Not quite to the level of those houses you see on TV, but I guess you could say a way slimmed-down version of that type of thing.


Well anyone that can build massive computer controlled Xmas light displays doesn't sound so bad to me.
I could probably keep up with the amount of lights but you're one step ahead of me with the computer controls.
I use minis but I'm still living in the past with C7 and C9 strings.
Actually I'm still living in the 80s for just about everything.
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Re: Anyone socially awkward? « Reply #49 on: August 19, 2020, 11:20:51 PM » Author: Bulbman256
@Bulbman256, Pressure about fitting in on social media that's something I didn't know about in school but I certainly know how tough middle school can be.
Don't put yourself down.
I remember that picture you posted of you rewiring the dryer.
I can't think of any kid your age that can do that.
You're already one step ahead of the other kids in your school.
Use that for strength when the pressure is on.

Thanks Wireman, i usually stay off social media and dont like most of it so i dont need to fit in. Middle school is tough and i know sort of get it retroactively.
Having some sort of understanding of a field is good and sort of being the only guy that knows is somewhat supporting. Kids where also really rough there and im hoping when i start highschool that due to the 'Rona that the people at my new school will be a bit more open to others. I was also ranting a bit about that place, it was flawed in a lot of ways and im glad im gone.
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Re: Anyone socially awkward? « Reply #50 on: August 25, 2020, 10:57:06 PM » Author: xmaslightguy
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  Well anyone that can build massive computer controlled Xmas light displays doesn't sound so bad to me.
I could probably keep up with the amount of lights but you're one step ahead of me with the computer controls.
I use minis but I'm still living in the past with C7 and C9 strings.
Actually I'm still living in the 80s for just about everything.

Yep, the computer-control adds a whole new thing (plus there's the extra time for programming (or as they call it 'sequencing')) .LOL.

I always liked the old C9 lights (and always will)...but for the most part don't use them anymore - takes too much power & I don't really have a good spot since everything else is mini/LED-mini.

80's is good when you're talking lights, and the best when you're talking music....
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Re: Anyone socially awkward? « Reply #51 on: August 25, 2020, 11:46:17 PM » Author: Wireman
Yep, the computer-control adds a whole new thing (plus there's the extra time for programming (or as they call it 'sequencing')) .LOL.

I always liked the old C9 lights (and always will)...but for the most part don't use them anymore - takes too much power & I don't really have a good spot since everything else is mini/LED-mini.

80's is good when you're talking lights, and the best when you're talking music....
80s lights and music, you're NOT socially awkward you just need to talk to people who understand what's cool!
LG certainly is a good start.
Myself I live in South Florida and nobody here understands anything about what's cool.
Right now I'm trying to get a collection going of 80s incandescents from GE but it's not easy!
I certainly could use some help with that.
80s music I could start a whole off-topic thread with that one.
I'm mostly into metal of all kinds and lately it's been all about Slayer and Venom well that may be to intense around here but I've gone back to my heavy metal days.
If you ever want to talk lights or music just let me know.
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Re: Anyone socially awkward? « Reply #52 on: October 01, 2020, 09:30:13 PM » Author: CEB1993
I have a problem with "brain blocks" when someone asks me basic questions like "What movies do you like?, What music do you like?, what do you like to do for fun?, etc." Given adequate time, I have a lot to say to these sorts of questions, but I can stumble over my words when asked on the spot. It's especially awkward when it's asked in a work or school setting where I'm always trying to put my best foot forward and avoid looking incompetent or vulnerable in front of colleagues and authority figures.

I grew up being told that being vulnerable and discussing mental problems is unacceptable. To that end, I've struggled to be confident about situations like dating, interviews, meeting new people, etc. Sometimes I think no response is the best response because my social anxiety often makes me hesitant to speak up or be assertive. I have noticed that discussing feelings, mental problems, and disclosing vulnerability is slowly becoming more socially acceptable, even in the past 10 years.
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