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I feel like life is wasting away… « on: April 09, 2025, 08:52:32 PM » Author: Cole D.
Does anyone else feel like this? I’m about to turn 36 and I realize I’m getting old. I don’t feel young and energetic.

All my friends got married and had kids and I really miss them. I miss going out to eat on Friday nights, going to movie or just hanging out with them. I don’t really have anyone to talk to anymore.

I don’t have any goals either, I really just want a house so I can enjoy my lighting and fan collection, but with all that’s going on I don’t guess that will ever happen. I was also hoping to have a place where friends could visit and watch movies or play games but since I don’t have any that part won’t happen.

It’s just odd being in my 30s with no kids and no relationship. In your 20s is one thing, but in your 30s nobody knows what to do with you if you aren’t in that environment.

I think I’m also just depressed since my mom got Alzheimer's disease (we suspect). It’s really awkward and scary, and I know it’s only going to get worse, and it’s already bad enough, it makes me just want to hide away.

My parents are all I really have since I’m not close or talk to the rest of the family. When they go, I don’t know what I’m going to do, and they started declining fast in their 60s, which is odd because my grandparents have all made it to their mid to late 90s (my grandma is the only one still living at 91).

Anyway I sort of live in my own little world of weird interests to avoid the bleak and sad real world… I just wish I was doing more with my life because if I live long enough to not be able to do anything anymore, I’m really going to regret not doing more. I’m just mentally tired and just don’t want to or cannot be creative enough to think of things to do. Dwelling on my mom also keeps me perpetually down, because I see the changes every day.
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Re: I feel like life is wasting away… « Reply #1 on: April 10, 2025, 07:57:22 AM » Author: rjluna2
Hey, you are young now.  Look at me https://www.lighting-gallery.net/gallery/displayimage.php?pos=-46809 :P

I'm still single and yet found the right lady in my life.  I still not have my own children yet :-\

I still enjoy doing what I want to do now :D
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Re: I feel like life is wasting away… « Reply #2 on: April 10, 2025, 11:52:46 PM » Author: xmaslightguy
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Does anyone else feel like this?
Yep sure do. .. but not so much wasting away but wastedaway.
Fact is I am old, worn-out, and falling apart.

And as years go along, things gets worse. Life is s -- t. Later this year the place I work will be closing, though another company will be taking over I'm basically not marketable job-wize due to my old age & worn-out self. Finding anything will be near impossible.

I pretty much hate the dictatorship of a country I live in, and the cesspool if bigotry & hate it will become. I certainly can't be proud to live in this place anymore.

There are times I feel like I should just "sell everything" and just kinda disappear. (and in all honesty, the majority of it I would if I could get a decent amount for it(not even make money off it, just break even & clear it out)).

But as far as marriage & kids, my feelings are different. I've never been married or have kids, and have zero interest in either. I'm honestly glad for that 'not interested' (besides its far far too much responsibility and expense (not to mention something like 50% of marriages end in divorce anyway)).
I've never even had a girlfriend & wouldn't even bother trying ... that'd just lead to hurt & heartbreak for both.

That all said...
I still love lights, and I love thunderstorms, and if the opportunity ever presents itself I will go stormchase/see a tornado (that's one thing I'd like to see before I go EOL )
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Re: I feel like life is wasting away… « Reply #3 on: April 11, 2025, 05:04:55 AM » Author: Milwaukeeman2003
I can relate, my mother and I are likely moving up to my uncles house  as she has heart failure (functioning 28%), my stepdad is an absolute jerk and we can’t take care of his autistic granddaughter anymore.

But remember, it’s never too late to turn your life around, but do it the first chance you get! Good luck!
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Re: I feel like life is wasting away… « Reply #4 on: April 11, 2025, 08:31:16 PM » Author: Binarix128
 It’s tough when life feels like it’s just slipping by, especially with everything going on. But remember, it’s not too late to take action or find some peace, even in small steps. You don’t have to have everything figured out right now. Just focus on what you can control and try to make room for moments that bring you joy.
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Re: I feel like life is wasting away… « Reply #5 on: April 13, 2025, 07:17:03 AM » Author: mima
I'm in the same bandwagon and I turned 40 exactely one month ago. I struggled for almost my entire life with my good share of mental issues (low self-esteem, heavy mood swings, anxiety, moments of sadness/feeling lonely, etc...) and I'm feeling that time is just slipping away under my feets. 20 years passed since I was 20 years old and that moment seems like it was just yesterday, time fleed so fast. In the meantime a lot of my frieds went living by their own, some got married and had kids, etc...

I'm starting just in these very last years to tackle my problems, losing weight played a big part in recovering some of my self-esteem and got me in a better health both mentally and physically, but I still have a long way ahead of me. But I hope I'll eventually figure all this stuff out. At least I have a high school degree in IT, a (not so well paid) job as a software developer and despite my friends getting their own lives most of them didn't abandon me, for which I'm very, very grateful to them. These, and having my hobbies with music and related technologies, lighting/electric stuff and computers to keep my mind engaged with, are very important factors for me to avoid feeling like a total waste of a human being. Wouldn't be for these I don't know if I'd be here writing this post.

If you feel that you're alone in this boat, well, you're not. Actually quite a lot of people are struggling with bad feelings and mental health issues, they just don't voice that out in fear of being judged. And I no wonder why, seeing how the world is going in these last years together with all this social network BS that's poisoning people's lives.

I whish you that you'll eventually find your own mental peace. Talk about your problems to the people you trust most and enjoy every step in the right direction even if it's a baby one, because no matter how small these steps are, they're difficult to take. Keep being strong and don't let your bad emotions win over you.

You can do it!
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Re: I feel like life is wasting away… « Reply #6 on: April 14, 2025, 04:27:20 PM » Author: Eleco_SR304
In my opinion, I feel like most of the time life is boring for some reason. I sometimes wonder when will the sadness from me go away  :(

But still I can sometimes enjoy a bit of my time with the OUSe fixture I own by recording video based on it.
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Re: I feel like life is wasting away… « Reply #7 on: April 14, 2025, 06:36:19 PM » Author: Foxtronix
Quite frankly I wouldn't want a relationship and/or kids in the world we're living in right now. This floating ball of rock is getting too f/&"ed up for that.

My 20s were turbulent as well. I was particularly naive as a kid, and that trait overstayed its welcome well into my 20s. Boy was the shock brutal! After years of reflection, with the help of some philosophy and even a bit of spirituality, one specific phrase summed it all up, at least in my own mind. It comes from, of all people, George Carlin.

"Life is a zero-sum game."

It can interpreted in a number of ways but I think what he meant by that isn't that there are either winners or losers, it's a more personal sense. You've got good moments and bad moments in life and while our brain is indeed more sensitive to negative experiences, all those moments seem to cancel each other out at the end of the day, as long as you can let go of things. This is where a lot of people seem to struggle, as I was until not so long ago.

As to "wasting" life away, the one thing that seems to universally cure this feeling is coming up with something, anything that gives back to the world in some way. Doesn't have to be money. Some people volunteer, others become social workers, or build stuff for the community, or start teaching, whatever. In this regard the corporate ladder is utter BS. People can get financially well-off this way but often at the cost of their health. And their life is just as meaningless, if not more.

Let's put it bluntly: I can't tell how many step there are between writing a testament and deleting oneself from the world, but I got that close, and I'll never consider myself "forever" out of the woods. But as soon as I started entertaining that idea of something that gives back to the world, things began turning around. It was no miracle, didn't happen overnight. But now at 31, my mind is a lot more at peace than it was a few years ago. I'm still a "highly sensitive person", always will be, and I still live the same ups and downs as before, but I feel that I now have some of the skills needed to be at the helm and navigate on the tumultuous waters of life and not be thrown around like a greenhorn.

Now I'm preparing some YT channel project. The exact nature of it is still undecided, but it's going to involve electricity in some form and most importantly content will be educational. Knowledge will be preserved and shared, hopefully for years to come, and that alone makes the struggles of life more relative like nothing else did before.
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