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Extreme depression... any advice? « on: December 14, 2017, 06:45:18 PM » Author: suzukir122
As some of you may know, I suffer from severe depression. I won't go into details what I'm currently thinking, but
I will say this... it has actually gotten very bad.
I have a motorcycle, which can easily be used as an anti-depressant. Only those that ride can understand... but I'm still
learning on it, and at times I've had trouble learning. Winter is here, along with frigid temperatures. This means that my
learning how to ride is currently at a halt. There's no way I'm riding that bike during the winter with low riding experience.

Self doubt has had it's way with me, and it's also putting an end to pretty much all of my dreams, killing motivation to do anything.
Not only that, but I'm starting to realize I don't have feasible intelligence to maintain what others would deem "basic survival."
In other words, it seems I need help with pretty much everything.
There's only so much more self doubt I can take before I end up giving in permanently. There's much, much more to all of this, but I
honestly don't feel like talking about it here. Just need advice from people who actually care.
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Re: Extreme depression... any advice? « Reply #1 on: December 14, 2017, 07:10:41 PM » Author: sox35
I'm afraid I can't advise about severe depression, as I've been fortunate never to have experienced it to that degree, but I have and still do to some extent suffer from depression mildly. I also used to ride motorcycles, so I can agree with you on that front  :)

All I can say is that talking does help. If not to a medical professional, then to a friend. A close friend, mind, one you know you can trust.

If you find you have no-one who will listen, PM me. I am a good listener, and as I said, talking does help.

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Re: Extreme depression... any advice? « Reply #2 on: December 14, 2017, 08:49:34 PM » Author: HomeBrewLamps
Well... Honestly i dont know how to classify my depression, so idk if it is comparable, but usually music helps me out... either that... or sneaking into the junkyard and beating on old cars... also building things helps me... idk man... I'm likely far younger than you so my advice might be worthless but i'd say, take a pickaxe and absolutely wreck something... I've always gotten pure joy from doing that... just make sure its not something you need or someones property that they will need... junked out cars that are about to be crushed are a perfect canidate
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Re: Extreme depression... any advice? « Reply #3 on: December 14, 2017, 09:15:55 PM » Author: CEB1993
Hi Suzukir122, I'm sorry to hear about your depression lately.  I totally understand your struggle, as I've had several episodes of depression in my life too.  I have had anxiety and OCD problems for most of my life, and when the symptoms of those get bad for me, it feels as if my life gets stalled out.  When my life gets stalled out, I feel depressed, bored, and unmotivated to do anything I enjoy.  For me, my debilitating anxiety, complete with insomnia, stomach upset, racing thoughts, and fear of social situations, will lead into my period of depression.  It's a vicious cycle  :(

Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) is a common problem during the shorter days of winter, especially in northern climates.  It sounds like the change in season and the arrival of colder weather has been a negative influence for you.  I feel for you not being able to motorcycle as much with the cold weather.  The decrease in natural sunlight will often lead to depression-like symptoms.  For more detailed information on SAD, check out this link:

https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topics/seasonal-affective-disorder/index.shtml

I live in South Carolina, and I even feel the unpleasant effects of less sunlight.  I experience the physical effects, such as drowsiness, an increase in appetite, an increase in drinking, and weight gain.  I've gained about 15 pounds since September.  It's a struggle, and I wish you all the best with managing your depression  :)

Here's some coping strategies for your depression:

Watch a funny, mindless movie

Exercising releases endorphins and leads to a happy and relaxed feeling afterwards

Be sure to get plenty of sleep as too much or too little sleep can contribute to depression

Be sure to eat a balanced diet and stay well hydrated

Catch up with friend(s)  Social interaction with a close and trusted friend is really fulfilling

Many communities have free support groups or group therapy for anxiety, depression, addictions, etc. Check out community centers or churches in your area for these great services.

Speaking with a counselor.  As MissRiaElaine says, talking is really important when something is bothering you.  I believe anyone can benefit from counseling, I know I have  :)  There is absolutely no shame in seeking counseling because it is completely confidential, and you are talking to a professional who knows how to help you.

I hope this helps.  When you're feeling down, just remember to appreciate the little things in life.  Just focus on appreciating the little things, take it one day at a time, and the big things will take care of themselves.  I wish you all the best!  :)

Sincerely,

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Re: Extreme depression... any advice? « Reply #4 on: December 15, 2017, 01:52:10 AM » Author: Ash
Self doubt has had it's way with me, and it's also putting an end to pretty much all of my dreams, killing motivation to do anything.
Not only that, but I'm starting to realize I don't have feasible intelligence to maintain what others would deem "basic survival."
In other words, it seems I need help with pretty much everything.
Is there something specific that caused you the self doubt. Something like a series of bad interactions with people (maybe unintentional), academic overload,  ?
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Re: Extreme depression... any advice? « Reply #5 on: December 15, 2017, 02:28:10 AM » Author: Lodge
Winter is here, along with frigid temperatures. This means that my
learning how to ride is currently at a halt. There's no way I'm riding that bike during the winter with low riding experience.

Self doubt has had it's way with me, and it's also putting an end to pretty much all of my dreams, killing motivation to do anything.
Not only that, but I'm starting to realize I don't have feasible intelligence to maintain what others would deem "basic survival."
In other words, it seems I need help with pretty much everything.

Yep winter is coming, we only get about three months of decent bike riding time up here so I know what you mean, we have two seasons here, July and winter.. But there is lots of other things, and winter is a great time to do things like take a class on baking, now while this might be out of most peoples comfort zones, it's warm in the kitchen, people like to eat, fresh warm bread is awesome, and the class is normally full of ladies (yes there is some logic behind this) plus you will learn to make tasty treats most people just buy, and hot cinnamon buns fresh out of the oven are so much better then anything store bought, and as a general rule cooking classes are a ton of fun, people like sitting down talking and eating...

And look at taking up new hobbies, I like to fish, I'll even go out ice fishing in the middle of winter, the silence on the lake helps reset you, there is not hundreds of things going on just one or two, there is a rod and a line in the hole, and a fire going and the odd time you get a fish to eat, and the places I go there is no people other then the odd game warden who just checks the licence makes sure your gear is legit and asks if you have had any luck and some offer the good fishing spots to try and the best part is there is no cell service so that large distraction is gone.. 

Also if you ever want to talk basic survival you can always PM me, I've seen all kinds of thing in my life from living in the third world, to feeding hundreds of homeless people every weekend, to running a business, and living off the land for extended periods in northern Canada close to the arctic circle and all sorts of things in-between... 
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Re: Extreme depression... any advice? « Reply #6 on: December 15, 2017, 08:05:43 AM » Author: sox35
Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) is a common problem during the shorter days of winter, especially in northern climates.  It sounds like the change in season and the arrival of colder weather has been a negative influence for you.

That's a good point, I too suffer with SAD, and up here in the North East of Scotland it's very noticeable during the winter.

As I said in my first reply, talking really does help, in fact it's how I met my partner, so good things can come from bad :-)
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Re: Extreme depression... any advice? « Reply #7 on: December 17, 2017, 04:48:29 AM » Author: Mercurylamps
I've always had a form of depression but not severe or anything. I do hide it well. Strangely I feel more comfortable talking about it here than I do face to face with anyone, even my own brother and we are more like best friends.
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Re: Extreme depression... any advice? « Reply #8 on: December 17, 2017, 10:51:52 PM » Author: CEB1993


Self doubt has had it's way with me, and it's also putting an end to pretty much all of my dreams, killing motivation to do anything.
Not only that, but I'm starting to realize I don't have feasible intelligence to maintain what others would deem "basic survival."
In other words, it seems I need help with pretty much everything.



I understand what you mean when you say that you need help with pretty much everything.  I think we are about the same age, mid 20's.  It's a difficult time because I am ready to be a totally independent adult, but I have yet to begin a real career, I have a pending grad. school application, and I find myself compulsively seeking my parents' approval for all of my decisions.  I don't feel confident enough in myself to submit my grad. school application without my parents' approval and proofreading.  That situation makes me feel small and incompetent. 

It's a gradual process, becoming independent.  I worry every day about my future success, future finances, and if I can "make it" in life.  The best thing to do is just to be patient, and take it one day at a time.  Be sure to account for all of your daily accomplishments, no matter how small and basic.  Take a look at who you are and do what makes you happy.  At this point in early adulthood, it's about figuring out who you are and what you are destined to do in life.  It's daunting in some ways, but also really exciting.  It's natural to feel threatened and anxious by the uncertainty, as I mentioned.  Uncertainty is natural, and it's overwhelming to think about five years from now today. 

Practicing Mindfulness, which means living in the now is a great way to escape from depressing and anxiety provoking thoughts.  Focus on the complete experience in front of you, and ignore unpleasant thoughts from the past and uncertainties about the future.  Savor each moment, because there is some good in every day  :)
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Re: Extreme depression... any advice? « Reply #9 on: December 21, 2017, 08:16:48 PM » Author: suzukir122
Thanks everyone for all of your advice. Though things haven't gotten any better and life continues
to weigh me down (there is more detail I have not provided on this thread) working out temporarily helps.
I haven't been working out as often as usual due to depression and lack of motivation.
My depression is something I also can't talk about to my younger brother or entire family because it just doesn't feel
right when I do, so I definitely know what you mean by that @mercury lamps. I can't talk about it face to face with anyone.
@Ash, bad interactions, past relationship(s) and social anxiety, is also part of it as well.
@CEB1993, it's not the seasons, although winter does add to the depression, but all of my thoughts have
been with me all throughout each year.
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Re: Extreme depression... any advice? « Reply #10 on: August 22, 2021, 09:46:48 AM » Author: suzukir122
Quick update here... depression has still been dominant, and I am still going through it (and losing the battle) but... I am still fighting it.
Right now my distraction is with vehicles. My motorcycle is in serious need of a professional tune up, so it's sitting in my garage. I'm in the process
of purchasing a very nice car... easily one of my dream cars, up there with the Corvettes, etc. After that, my motorcycle will be taken to a Triumph
motorcycle dealer to be tuned up. So... vehicular distractions seem to be my best ally against depression, and thoughts I can't communicate about here on LG.
It feels like a temporary distraction though, and depression/vivid flashbacks of the past, often times puts me into a very dark scenario

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Re: Extreme depression... any advice? « Reply #11 on: August 22, 2021, 02:21:29 PM » Author: DetroitTwoStroke
I've suffered from OCD and panic since I was in my early teens (probably earlier, really) and depression does come along with those sometimes. Fortunately I was put on Zoloft, and I can say it made a world of difference. Having turned 30 this year, I am trying to start eating healthier and taking better care of myself.

I would recommend discussing it with your doctor and finding a good psychiatrist, if necessary. Finding a medication that works for you will make an incredible difference.

Some people who don't get the medical help they need often turn to alcohol or substance abuse, and that can really take a toll on the body.

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Re: Extreme depression... any advice? « Reply #12 on: August 22, 2021, 03:49:38 PM » Author: suzukir122
@DetroitTwoStroke, ahh, welcome to the 30 club. I turned 30 years old back in December 27th. I weightlift and I'm in very good shape to
those that have seen me face to face, but I also do need to work on eating healthier. That's just fact. Although I look good, my eating habits
are... not the best. At all.
Regardless of where I stand with depression, I will never resort to drinking, substance abuse, or drugs. I've never even taken a sip of alcohol.
Never have, never will. Not even if (or when) I get married. Not even during the honeymoon.
So I will say, regarding that type of stuff, I'm safe. I made a vow when I was a kid... to never resort to those kind of things.
That's a vow I intend to keep. :)
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Re: Extreme depression... any advice? « Reply #13 on: August 22, 2021, 03:49:49 PM » Author: funkybulb
Hello every one

  I am been in depressive phase that it been so bad where i cant even funtion in life.  One of reason is i love scrapping
 As I got dumb Comal county twice on clean up orders it was
 So bad it to point I cant even function.  And at same time i wanted work my house but nope county got in the way of things.   These people in the hood cant  mind there own business.   The HOA went bust  they cant even fix one pot hole
 On my road.  Yet they complain about my metals.  Well i guess
 I guess will get to enjoy my casino style lighting on my house
  And fire up some 1000 watt HPS couple hours at night at about 1 Am and see how people will like that one

 And scolling Incandescent sign who cares what on your property Leave me alone!   
 
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Re: Extreme depression... any advice? « Reply #14 on: August 22, 2021, 04:00:05 PM » Author: Morbid Angel
Quick update here... depression has still been dominant, and I am still going through it (and losing the battle) but... I am still fighting it.
Right now my distraction is with vehicles. My motorcycle is in serious need of a professional tune up, so it's sitting in my garage. I'm in the process
of purchasing a very nice car... easily one of my dream cars, up there with the Corvettes, etc. After that, my motorcycle will be taken to a Triumph
motorcycle dealer to be tuned up. So... vehicular distractions seem to be my best ally against depression, and thoughts I can't communicate about here on LG.
It feels like a temporary distraction though, and depression/vivid flashbacks of the past, often times puts me into a very dark scenario
I have a feeling that I'm stepping over the line here but I've battled extreme depression and currently severe anxiety attacks.

The depression many years ago reached a point that well.... let's just say I'm still here today.
Trust me my friend extreme depression is something that needs treatment from many different angles.
Buying a new dream car I gurantee will only be a band-aid fix.
You really need to seek the advice of a psychologist for talk therapy as well as a psychiatrist about discussing medication.
You should also talk with your personal physician.
Seek support from your family and friends.
A change in lifestyle is a big help.
Change in routine, residence, career, and better diet all can help as well.
But in order to get through it takes more than one solution, I've been there buddy and I managed to come out of it alive and with a career I enjoy.

As far as the anxiety, I'm suffering from that right now though, in fact it gives heart attack and stroke symptoms.
I understand that the normal pulse rate in a healthy adult is between 70- 80 but my last ER visit 154!
But thanks to a wonderful doctor she put me on 2 good medications and this anxiety is being brought into check.

Bottom line is when things get severe enough seeking professional advice becomes necessary.
Otherwise you'll be broke from buying that dream car and instead living a nightmare that starts at the crack of dawn.

If you feel comfortable about it you can talk to me, I'm always willing to listen.
Or we could just talk lighting and most importantly right now football!
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