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Re: Need advice on how to deal with mean members of this hobby « Reply #30 on: October 07, 2022, 04:29:25 PM » Author: Rommie
It was 13 until November last year when we decided 16 was a better age. It's not a retrospective change so if you were under 16 at the time you're ok.
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Re: Need advice on how to deal with mean members of this hobby « Reply #31 on: October 08, 2022, 12:38:53 AM » Author: BT25
FB is a mess because it's run by the 'look at me' crowd...envy, jealousy, and just plain stupid rule there...it's about getting attention, and the crazier the better. It's like the old saying that any publicity is good publicity.
My advice: FLUSH FARCEBOOK ASAP!...and have YOUR life back.
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Re: Need advice on how to deal with mean members of this hobby « Reply #32 on: October 08, 2022, 02:07:11 AM » Author: Econolite03
Not to mention that Zuckerberg dude, he’s kinda weird.
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Re: Need advice on how to deal with mean members of this hobby « Reply #33 on: October 08, 2022, 05:32:16 AM » Author: Rommie
If you want a laugh, run 'Zuckerberg' through a spell checker :mrg:
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Re: Need advice on how to deal with mean members of this hobby « Reply #34 on: October 08, 2022, 09:19:15 AM » Author: BT25
Not to mention that Zuckerberg dude, he’s kinda weird.

Not only weird, but extremely arrogant, and downright   >:D.
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Re: Need advice on how to deal with mean members of this hobby « Reply #35 on: October 08, 2022, 09:49:18 AM » Author: takemorepills
I'll add some advice that hasn't been given yet.

Grow thicker skin.

You can't let the thoughts and words of other people affect you. You shouldn't ask for moderators or others to step in to protect your feelings. Something to remember about jerks online, I guarantee that if you met them in real life, they probably wouldn't be so mean to you. The social separation and/or anonymity of social media allows the worst traits of people to be magnified. They would probably moderate themselves quite a bit more as being face-to-face generally causes people to dial back quite a bit. I strongly believe that society would benefit from social media being shut down.

I have raised my teenage son to be impervious to insults and mean spirited people, you literally can't shake him. What's the old saying...like water off a duck's back?

I am so pleased to see that most of us have a consensus about Facebook. Now, I hop Tik Tok can die next.
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Re: Need advice on how to deal with mean members of this hobby « Reply #36 on: October 08, 2022, 10:13:53 AM » Author: Rommie
'Growing thicker skin' isn't an option for many of us. Autism and similar conditions, which many of us here suffer with, mean that just isn't possible. The old 'sticks and stones' saying is not only completely untrue for us, it's also very upsetting in itself.

I'm certainly better at dealing with things than I used to be, but I am by no means immune to what others say or do, and (with rare exceptions, such as psychopaths) I don't believe anyone else is either, including you and your son. Sooner or later, something or someone will upset you at some point in your life, it's part of what being human is.

Anyway, let's move on, shall we..? I think this topic is drawing to a close.

Take care, everyone, and keep safe  :-* :love:
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Re: Need advice on how to deal with mean members of this hobby « Reply #37 on: October 09, 2022, 02:39:27 AM » Author: marcopete87
Like DOS with a missing floppy, you have 3 options:
Abort, Retry, Ignore.
I suggest ignore the bullies and report offending comments to moderator.
If they continue, you can abort and leave the toxic groups.
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Re: Need advice on how to deal with mean members of this hobby « Reply #38 on: October 09, 2022, 09:19:54 PM » Author: wide-lite 1000
 Also try reporting directly to Facebook itself . Their TV commercials brag about their online safety protocols . So put them to the test !!
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Re: Need advice on how to deal with mean members of this hobby « Reply #39 on: October 10, 2022, 05:37:52 AM » Author: Rommie
Not watched a TV commercial in years. We always record anything so we can fast-forward through them  ;D  :tv:
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Re: Need advice on how to deal with mean members of this hobby « Reply #40 on: October 10, 2022, 05:05:07 PM » Author: wide-lite 1000
 Off topic I know but sometimes the commercials are better than the program or movie !  :mrg:
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Re: Need advice on how to deal with mean members of this hobby « Reply #41 on: October 10, 2022, 05:56:23 PM » Author: Rommie
Yeah, sometimes, this one is my favorite  :mrg:
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Re: Need advice on how to deal with mean members of this hobby « Reply #42 on: October 11, 2022, 07:15:40 PM » Author: 108CAM
If you ever feel uncomfortable about another member's actions on this site, you can always PM the admins.
When it comes to Facebook, I mostly use it for Marketplace and keeping in touch with family members and a few friends. I've also joined a couple of groups for my local area, all of which are very well moderated. The only lighting group I'm in is a fairly small group of other Australians who collect street lights and this group is also very well moderated.

I suggest that you leave the groups that are causing issues and only use Facebook for the reasons I stated above or if you're very worried, don't use it at all.
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